Where Did My Desire Go?
Intimacy and Menopause
A candid, reassuring conversation about the midlife changes women experience, but rarely talk about.
Date
Thu, Sept 17, 2026
Time
7:00 PM - 8:30 PM ET
Format
Private live Zoom + replay
Has Intimacy Started to Feel Different?
Maybe your desire has disappeared.
Maybe intimacy has become uncomfortable or painful.
Maybe you love your partner, but you simply don't feel interested anymore.
Or perhaps you've quietly wondered:
"What happened to that part of me?"
Changes in desire and intimacy are common during perimenopause and menopause, but women are rarely prepared for them. We're often left feeling confused, embarrassed, disconnected from our bodies, or worried that something is wrong with us or our relationships.
It's time to have the conversation women deserve to have.
Join Me for an Honest Midlife Conversation
During this private, live event, we'll talk openly about the physical, hormonal, emotional and relationship changes that can affect desire and intimacy during midlife.
This will not be a stiff medical lecture or an uncomfortable presentation.
It will be a warm, candid and judgment free conversation, with practical information, personal experiences, gentle humor and plenty of reassurance.
Because sometimes laughter helps us relax enough to talk about the things we have been carrying silently.
We'll Talk About
Why desire can change during perimenopause and menopause
Why intimacy may become uncomfortable or painful
How hormonal changes can affect the vaginal and pelvic tissues
The connection between stress, exhaustion, body image and desire
Why loving your partner doesn't automatically create physical desire
How these changes can affect communication and relationships
Ways to begin talking with your partner without blame or embarrassment
Questions you may want to ask your doctor or healthcare provider
Resources and forms of support women may want to explore
How to reconnect with your body without pressure, shame or performance
Debbie will also share some of her own personal experiences, helping women feel less alone in the changes they may be navigating.
This Event Is for You If
Your desire has changed or disappeared
Intimacy has become uncomfortable
You feel disconnected from your body
You're worried about what these changes mean for your relationship
You miss feeling sensual, close or confident
You want practical information without shame or awkwardness
You've been wondering whether other women are experiencing this too
You are not broken.
Your body is changing, and you deserve information, support and a safe place to talk about it.
Ask the Question You've Been Afraid to Ask
You will have an opportunity to submit a question privately before the event.
Questions may be addressed during the live conversation without identifying the person who submitted them.
You are also welcome to attend quietly, keep your camera off, and simply listen.
The Details
Thursday, September 17, 2026
7:00 PM - 8:30 PM ET
Live on Zoom
Join from the comfort of your home.
Replay available for 7 days
Available September 18 through September 24
Meet Debbie Harris
Debbie Harris is a Menopause Mapping Strategist, Certified Menopause Coaching Specialist, Certified Hypnotist, TEDx speaker, and award winning bestselling author of Dieting Sucks for Women Over 40: 30 to Life. She is also a contributing author to WOmenopause: Real Talk, Real Stories, Real Women and Unshakeable Leadership.
After experiencing her own confusing midlife health and weight journey, Debbie became committed to helping women understand that they are not broken. They may simply have been given The Wrong Map. Her work helps women organize what they are experiencing, identify realistic priorities, and become stronger advocates for themselves and their care.
You Don't Have to Figure This Out Alone
Midlife intimacy may look different, but different does not mean over.
Come join us for the Conversation women should have been invited into years ago.
Thursday, September 17, 2026 | 7:00 PM - 8:30 PM ET
Live on Zoom with a seven day replay
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